As I sit here writing this, we now have winter weather, the first frost and a beautiful cold sunny day.
Nature manages change so well, much better than we do as human beings! One thing I have learnt this year is not to worry about the things I can’t change and embrace the changes that nature surrounds us with.
The year seems to have flown by and I can’t quite believe we are at the point of saying goodbye to 2021.
My walk and talk events this year have proved popular, and we have covered so many topics, change, motivation, making time for us to name but a few.
On the December walk on 6th December will be looking back over the year and reflecting on what went well, what could have been better and our hopes for 2022.
I think we can all relate to a year that has been full of ups and downs. The Ups for me have been around seeing clients flourish and achieve their goals. It’s such an amazing feeling when I start to observe clients starting to believe in themselves and grow in confidence and reach those goals that they never thought would be possible.
Self-belief and confidence are the keys to unlocking your full potential, but it can be really hard to get there, having a coach to talk things through and voice out loud your fears and then begin to understand them and face them is very powerful.
The downs have been less time with family and friends due to the pandemic and having to make the most of “screen time” to catch up and missing hugs!
Before the craziness of Christmas arrives, take some time to reflect on your year, the highs the lows and the plans for next year.
I have increased the places on the December walk if you would like to join – December walk and talk it would be great to see you, thank you if you have already booked.
Let’s embrace the change and say goodbye 2021 and welcome 2022.

Wow what wonderful weather we have had across Cornwall over the last 2 weeks, fingers crossed it stays warm and dry for the school holidays.

Our July Walk and Talk event was all about making decisions and we shared our top tips. It was interesting to hear from the groups how sometimes the difficult decisions were the easy ones to make rather than the simple everyday ones!
A lot of us write down the decision we are grappling with and then way up the pros and cons before making that important decision.
We all admitted that sometimes we don’t talk about the turmoil going round in our heads when trying to decide something and the groups really valued talking to others and realising that a problem shared is really a problem halved.

Next Monday will be our August Walk and Talk event and the topic this month is how do we develop a growth mindset. I was introduced to this concept through my granddaughters’ school as they were adopting it across the school to encourage the pupils to believe that they can grow and develop and that it takes work and effort, but you can realise it.

The phrase we learnt and use all the time now when faced with a difficult task is “I can’t do it yet”

People with a growth mindset believe that if they’re not as good as they’d like to be at something, they can work at it and improve.

Set-backs are re-framed as new challenges to overcome, and failure can be used as a springboard to bigger and better things. Whereas people with a fixed mindset believe that their intelligence and abilities are fixed, something that you are either born with or without.

People with a fixed mindset are more likely to believe that their ability and intelligence can’t be changed; that they’re either good at something or not. They’re usually easily discouraged and might avoid taking risks or trying new things because they’re fearful of failure.

I look forward to discussing it more next week, please come along. You can book a place via my webpage August Walk and Talk

If you can’t make it and would like to know more, I highly recommend reading this book:
Mindset: The New Psychology of Success

Have a great summer!

Tina

I cannot believe another month has nearly passed and there is still a lot of uncertainty, and I don’t know about you but a feeling of confusion as well.

It feels like we have a clear way forward and then that gets muddled and decisions are made, and your life feels turned upside down again.

How clear are you on making decisions? Are you a person who is a planner or someone who leaves things to the last minute?

We all have to make many decisions throughout our daily lives. Some of these decisions require little effort, while others require more time and deeper thought before coming to a final solution.

When faced with having to make those really important decisions I tend to take time to think things through and I always try and think of what is the worst that can happen and work back from there.

Others like to list the pros and cons and decide based on those.

I read an article recently that offered a 5-step guide to decision making:
Step 1: Identify Your Goal:
This means identifying the purpose of your decision by asking yourself what exactly is the problem that needs to be solved? And why does this problem need to be solved?

Step 2: Gather Information for Weighing Your Options:
Gather necessary information that is directly related to the problem. Doing this will help you to better understand what needs to be done in solving the problem and will also help to generate ideas for a possible solution.

Step 3: Consider the Consequences:
Ask yourself what is likely to be the results of your decision. How will it affect you now? And how will it affect your future?

Step 4: Make Your Decision:
Now that you have identified your goal, gathered all necessary information, and weighed the consequences, it is time to make a choice and actually execute your final decision. Ask yourself, does it feel right? And does this decision work best for you now, and in the future?

Step 5: Evaluate Your Decision:
Once you have made your final decision and put it into action, it is necessary to evaluate the decision and the steps you have taken to ensure that it works. This final step is probably just as important as step one, if not more important, because it will help you to further develop your decision-making skills for future problems. This step is also fundamental because it may require you to seek out new information and make some changes along the way.

Our topic for my July Walk and Talk on Monday 5 July is “making decisions”

So, it would be great to see you, make a decision and book a place ?

Have a good week!

Tina
Cornwall Coaching

At our last Walk and Talk event we discussed “motivation” I was really interested in hearing what motivated people and how that kept them going when things were tough.

“Doing my job” was overwhelmingly the most thing that motivated people. The sense of achievement and satisfaction when you have helped a client, or achieved that result clearly motivates you to do more.

Outside of work, family and quality of life was also a motivator.

I don’t know about you, but I have found during the last year it has been difficult to motivate myself at times.

When the world is changing all around us and things seem chaotic and the future is unknown, doing the “normal” work things somehow seem unimportant even though at times they are the only thing that can distract us!

Acknowledging those feelings and talking about them is a way to externally recognise them and the one thing I know I and others benefit from on my walk and talk events is that sense of comfort when you realise there are others around you who are feeling the same 

So, what motivates you?

The important thing is to recognise your motivations (write them down) and when things get tough go back to them and remind yourself what drives you.

These will change over time so get into the habit of revisiting them (set a yearly reminder).

It’s ok to have days when you lack motivation, take some time out, look after yourself, be kind to yourself and you will bounce back!

My next walk and Talk events are on Monday 7th June. The theme will be time, how do we juggle life, and make time for ourselves as well as others.

It would be great to see you.

I was really fortunate last month to be able to restart my monthly Walk and Talk events.

It was great to see people again and all the people who took park really appreciated being able to get out and meet other like-minded people.

We talked about what the past year has taught us and if there were things that we would now change because of the last year.
The common theme that came out was valuing time spent with loved ones but also allowing time to look after ourselves.

In the past I think we have all experienced feelings of guilt when taking time out to look after ourselves, why is that?

The one thing lockdown has enabled us to do is spend more time at home and not finding ourselves rushing around trying to fit in 101 things in a day.

We all agreed on our walk that we would stop feeling guilty looking after ourselves, whether that is taking some time out to read a book, listen to music or just sitting in the garden and reflecting on the day.

It will be really interesting to look back in a year’s time and see if we did achieve that or if life just got in the way again!

My next Walk and Talk event is on Monday 26th April and I have added a third walk at 5:00pm for those who find that time easier.

I have a series of videos on YouTube with further reflections – check out my Lockdown thoughts here: Lessons from Lockdown

How often do you feel like you can’t do something, or that creeping doubt comes into your mind that you aren’t good enough?

I know in the past I have found myself thinking soon somebody will find out I can’t do this. This is called “imposter syndrome” and a recent survey estimated 70% of people experience these impostor feelings at some point in their lives.

It doesn’t matter who you are or what you do feelings like this do occur, so how do we deal with them?

One step is to recognise these thoughts and then to rationalise them. When that doubt enters your mind address it, ask yourself “why am I feeling like this?” is it because I am about to embark on something new and challenging, if that’s the case recognise that it will be challenging and there may be some difficulties along the way and that’s ok, as this is how you learn and grow.

Instead of thinking, “Wait till they find out I have no idea what I’m doing,” tell yourself “Everyone who starts something new feels out of sorts in the beginning. I may not know all the answers but I’m smart enough to find them out.”

Instead of thinking, “Everyone here is brilliant…. and I’m not” go with “Everyone here is brilliant – I’m really going to learn a lot!”

Listen to my motivational message to kick-start you into action!

The one good thing I think 2020 has given us is a period of time to reflect and think about our lives. It may have been forced upon us and we may not have welcomed it, but it has enabled us to be more creative with our time and appreciate what is important.

We have had to adapt to how we run our businesses, lives, and how we interact with people and new ways of working have now become the norm which has also opened up opportunities we never knew existed.

Many of my clients have taken this opportunity to work through what they want to change, whether it’s a new career, a new business model or a change in direction with their life.

Do you have a goal in mind or are you not sure yet but really want to achieve something by this time next year?

So, what is coaching?
Coaching will empower you to reach your full potential through listening, questioning, and being a catalyst for change.

As a coach, I am not here to give you the answers but to create an opportunity for you to explore in a safe, trustworthy environment to start you on the journey to be the person you have always known you could be.

Outdoor Coaching
I love living in Cornwall and spending as much time as possible in the stunning environment that surrounds me, whether it’s on the beach, the coast path or inland exploring our beautiful countryside.
I try and hold all my coaching sessions outdoors as this can stimulate emotions, jog memories and improve conversations which aids your self-reflection and self-evaluation, all essential constituents of successful coaching.

“It’s hugely enjoyable – and rewarding – to work with Tina, she’ll get you where you want to be. Maybe even a little further.’

Let’s take a walk and plan your future…